I had a great email today from our legal department. They told us that the US government forsees no legal impediment based on our visa status for adopting in the US, either domestically or internationally. They are also aware of two other families from my organisation who have previously adopted successfully, however one family had a few complications over the legal issues. However, it sounds like if you have money to burn, the legal issues will disappear. I don’t mean in a corrupt way, but rather the more you pay the more you get in terms of service.
We asked our legal team to help us look into our visa status so we would know if it was actually possible for us as ‘legal aliens’ to adopt if we decide to stay in the US. It took about three weeks for everything to be double checked, but it was worth the wait and now we know….we can adopt!
I also had a phone call from our IVF nurse co-ordinator today. We have an appointment next week with her to go through the whole process in more depth than the doctor did – apparently it will take about 1.5hrs!! She sounded very friendly and helpful (I guess you have to be do that job!) She also informed me something the doctor forgot to tell us last week.
The Embryology lab is going through a refurbishment in late June/early July!
Fortunately it sounds like it won’t affect us as we would expect an egg retrieval in mid July. I hope they don’t over run their re-furb or delay it because that would suck going through all that just to have our cycle cancelled because of some lazy painters!!! But I’m sure they wouldn’t let something like that happen.
I’m currently on Cycle Day 19 and I’m feeling great. I have had the odd pain, but nothing like the sharp pains from the last two IUI cycles. Fingers crossed they don’t come back that it was just a side effect of the progesterone and nothing else nasty causing them. Our break from trying to conceive has been quite fun; next weekend we are planning a trip to our local beer festival and Bush Gardens to try out their new roller coaster ‘Tempesto’!
Physically the break is doing me good. Mentally, I’ve still had a few odd moments. This last weekend we didn’t go to our friend’s daughter’s 3rd birthday party at the petting zoo. Now, I love animals. Love love love them, and who doesn’t love to pet animals! But I freaked out at the last minute about going someplace where everyone else will have a kid with them and we would be the odd ones out. I mean, why would anyone go to a petting zoo without a kid in tow? If it had been a party at their house or somewhere more neutral in that sense I wouldn’t have had a problem. It was just the idea of feeling like we didn’t belong, with the potential for random strangers asking ‘oh which one is your kid’? Or, like the time a random granny noticed us at a Christmas tree lighting ceremony, told us ‘It’s OK that you don’t have a kid’. Yeah, I’ve been there before….and right now it is not for me. I felt bad that I couldn’t pull myself together to go, I hope they can understand. I’m sure they do. I just wish I didn’t feel like this.
So to end this post on a positive note…here is a picture of a cheeky goat that we know.
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I love how positive you sound today!! I’m so excited for you to move forward!!