Reblog – Start asking friends and family for support —

Day 4 of the Bloggers Unite Conference at missconception.com!  I don’t know who this lunatic blogger is, she is harping on about something for infertility awareness week…..oh wait….it’s me! I’m excited to be part of the bloggers unite conference this year, and very grateful to Miss Conception for hosting it!

I discuss how we opened up to our friends and family about our infertility journey and yet had never actually asked for support from them.  I assumed I didn’t need it.  But I was wrong. People find it hard to know how to help their infertile loved ones, so if you ask, they will leap, I have no doubt about that as we have experienced.  I suggest ways you can ask for support from your friends and family.  You don’t need to be as open about your infertility journey as we have, but knowing when and how to ask for support will help get you through those tough days. Click the link below to read more!!!  XXX

Hi! My name is Dani. My husband, Chris and I, have been trying to conceive (TTC) since December 2013. We were diagnosed with ‘unexplained infertility‘ in January 2015. I decided to blog about our journey of TTC as I quickly realised that talking to friends and family about our situation can be difficult. It can be hard for them to […]

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12 thoughts on “Reblog – Start asking friends and family for support —”

  5. Sue says:
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    Hi Dani,
    That is a great post, and I’d like to comment from a ‘potential helper’ point of view. It’s a common misconception that when someone helps someone else, it is a burden on the helper, therefore you are better off saying “no thanks I’m fine” to anyone who offers help, so you are not burdening them. As a potential helper, I don’t help other people because it’s the right thing to do despite it being a burden, I help simply because it makes me feel good. I’m selfish like that. I think most people are but they just don’t like to admit it. If I take a day off work to volunteer for a charity, its not because it’s the right thing to do but because it makes me feel good about myself.

    So, if you let people help, you are actually doing the helper a favour. I would love to go to the store and buy you a new baby, but I can’t (the ‘baby’ section at Target is quite misleading), and I can’t do very much for you at all. That makes me feel bad. Maybe I can do something very small, by taking on a small work task. That makes me feel better. Maybe your friends in the UK can only post a funny picture to your facebook page, that’s not very much but I bet it helps them feel better.

    Even worse, if you say ‘no thanks I’m fine’ when someone offers to help, the potential helpers might start wondering “well clearly she’s not fine, but she doesn’t think I’m a good enough friend / work colleague / trustworthy person”.

    So in conclusion, when you ask for help you are actually doing the helper a favour, not the other way round. Asking for help creates better friendships & relationships. The best friends will be honest when you ask for help and tell you whether or not it is truly a burden to them.

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