You just can’t make this stuff up – facebook again

They say a picture paints a thousand words…so here it is.


For those who cannot see this picture, it is a screen shot of my personal facebook post from this evening.  I wrote:

“It has been a difficult week for the both of us, I am pregnant, but the doctors have now given us less than a 1% chance of my pregnancy continuing successfully.  We wait to see how things go, but have readied ourselves for the worst.  We are being open and honest because so many other struggle with this in silence.  The IVF process has been a roller coaster of emotions for us and would like to say thank you for everyone supporting us through it all.”

Above my post is a facebook sponsored advert for stitch fix maternity clothes.  Can you believe how mad I was to see this – only 5 minutes after posting it??? Especially after I have already changed my facebook settings to prevent all ads relating to parenting, family, pregnancy, babies etc.  Clearly the facebook algorithm reads my post status with “I am pregnant” and over-rides my chosen settings.  The fact that I am already a stitch fix customer adds insult to injury!!

I will write to facebook to tell them how upset this made – in spite of the fact that I had changed my settings to prevent this from happening.  They really must do better at this.

On the positive side, we have had lots of love and kind messages in response.  We thought it was time we gave an update because today when we went to our softball social league where someone congratulated us – then we had to tell them the bad news, and I think they just felt awkward over it.  Facebook – the good, the bad and the ugly.

7 thoughts on “You just can’t make this stuff up – facebook again

  1. EmilyMaine says:

    Oh yeah it’s the pits isn’t it, the awkward moment where people realise they aren’t up to date. I’m terrified to ask any pregnant woman how her pregnancy is going now in case something has happened and I’m not up to date. Such a terrible by product of this process. I thought I’d untold everyone but I got a message from someone this morning asking me if I had “happy news” so I’d obviously left someone out that passed it on! I am think of you and hoping that little baby hangs in there. xx

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  2. Disorderly Love says:

    While I absolutely HATE this experience for you, I am happy that you are putting these issues out in the public eye. As you said, many struggle in silence. We as a society need to stop this. We need to make talking about infertility okay.

    Ugh, damn it Facebook!!!!! This makes me angry for you -,-


  3. dinksbydefault says:

    1) F Facebook! 2) So sorry to hear you are going through all this. I can’t imagine going through IVF, finally getting a BFP, and then having all of that (potentially) ripped away. You are very brave for sharing with your Facebook world. *Hugs*


  4. Nara says:

    I’m so mad on your behalf! I’ve really not had any dodgy ads since I changed my settings. But I did remove EVERYTHING from that category apart from about one thing (I think Love). So I’m not even wanting to hear about anything vaguely family related! At least now I get ads for snacks! I’m so sorry that you had to put up with it on that day of all days. X


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