This week has been chaotic, stressful, exhausting and emotional both in my personal and work life. It was like being on the triple loop-de-loop part of the roller coaster of infertility with a crowd of people squirting water into my face as I go round and round. Ughh I feel sick!! My roller coaster journey hasn’t stopped just yet, but it’s feeling a little gentler this weekend!
But amongst all that chaos there are three people in my life who are always there for me that I am celebrating this week – My husband, my mummy and my granny!
Four years ago I married my best friend, my confidant and my very handsome lover, Chris. It was an amazing day! We celebrated our love and our commitment to each other with all our friends and family around us. The sun came out and we danced the night away to an epic Ceilidh band. I remember every minute of it, I hope I never forget second of it. Little did we know on that day what the next four years had in store for us! We had no clue we would be moving our lives to the USA and starting from scratch. We had no clue we would lose touch with some of our friends, and make some friendships even stronger despite the distance. We had no clue we would be making new friends. We had no clue we would struggle to grow our family. We had no clue we would miss these friends and family that surrounded us that special day. And through all of this, our love continues to grow stronger day by day in ways I never thought possible.
Thank you Chris for being so loving to me!
I have known and loved my mum longer than anybody else in the world. We have had our fair share of disagreements….OK….some of them might actually be arguments! But I can say that probably 95% of the time they were of my doing as a teenager I caused despair with my mother! We are also chalk and cheese in some other things in life and times, I have wondered sometimes how we are related, but I guess that is normal in every parent-child relationship! The important thing is, my mum always supported me in my differences and encouraged me to seek out the best and different opportunities in life – even when she didn’t really approve (I could tell those disapproving looks!). I don’t think I would be so happy and successful now without her support.
My mother has been through some very tough times in her life and has battled breast cancer – twice. She has also been through many ups and downs in her relationships with my fathers. Simply put, my mum is a fighter. The most important thing my mother has taught me as I grew up, probably unknowingly to her and maybe today she will only realise that I credit this to her, is problem solving skills – and not giving up on wicked problems. I learnt this skill from observation and understanding the effects of successfully solving a problem ….it was a nurtured skill, not given, not genetic. Often I’ve wondered how I ended up becoming an analyst, but it makes a lot of sense given what I have learned from my mum. And there is one other thing that I admire about my mother – and that is her care and dedication to many of her friends and her children at her job.
Thank you mummy for being you!!! Happy Mothers Day!!
My gran is the second person in my life I have known the longest after my mum (my mum wins because I hung around inside her for 9 months before meeting the rest of the world :-p). My gran is one of the most humble and selfless ladies I have ever known in my life. My gran has taught me the values and standards I try to live by in life and how to be considerate for other people. I think this is why today I find it so hard to fathom why other people can be so mean and horrible to other human beings (i.e. trolls). But there is something else that I think my gran might not realise she has taught me to be in life… that is fearless. My gran IS fearless. My gran is not afraid to try new things or think of things in a different light. I am pretty sure every time I speak to my gran she has been doing something different, something new – it probably seems like nothing to her – but to me that is amazing. Gran is coming to visit us in a few months time and I am soooo excited that we can share our USA experiences with her! My granny and papa looked after me and my brothers regularly as we grew up and their unconditional love has always been my safe place that I think about when I use calming techniques.
Although my gran isn’t my mother, she is my mummy’s mother and so on this Mother’s day I want to thank you granny for everything you do!!!!