IVF DIARY VOL I: 17 – 21 JULY 2015

IVF_Diary_Vol1b.pngMedication(s) administered and dosage(s). Nil (the quiet before the storm??!)

Medical procedures undertaken. Nil

How do I feel today? Woohoo!! I took my last birth control pill yesterday, so I’m feeling excited!

I am on week 7 of my sugar and simple carbs ban.  I’ve done pretty well and have allowed myself just one small treat each week which has kept me motivated (although last night we did have white pasta :-s whoops).  I even bought dunkin donuts for everyone at work today and I had not one bite of them!  Wow, I was drooling over their delicious smell.  I have struggled over the last week or so with sugar cravings.  I’ve never had cravings like this…it got to the point that I even imagined there was a tiny piece of chocolate in the sink when in fact it was just a piece of cat food.  I was hallucinating about all things super sugary, in particular Krispy Kreme donuts.  I was  literally salivating over the cookies at my work cafe and imagining the way that they would crisp and crunch in my mouth, with the chocolate chips still slightly melted as they just came out of the oven.  Was it the Birth Control Pills that did this to me?  Or my addiction to sugar.  I really can’t quite tell.

Work is a bit stressful as I am trying to fit a lot in so I can take time off required for the IVF appointments, plus a bunch of other factors that are out of my hands are probably contributing to the stress.  I probably have piled a lot of that stress on myself, but I can’t help but be a perfectionist; sometimes I have to stop and ask myself – is anybody going to die if I don’t do this work?  When I answer with no, then I remind myself to step away.

What are my symptoms? The spotting finally stopped just as it was time to stop the birth control pills.  I took just 13 pills in all, and the nurse told me to stop take my last on yesterday in preparation for my first day of stimulation injectibles scheduled for this Friday 24th Jul.  I am not sure if I will get a period over the next few days, so I shall await with a pad/tampon to hand just in case :-s

How does Chris feel today? Chris feels like work has distracted him from the build up to our upcoming IVF.  It worries him a little bit because he thinks he might not be paying close enough attention to his true feelings.  But he did tell me that he is excited to be starting, but nervous all at the same time, particularly at the notion of stabbing me with the needles.  (Yep, you and me both hon ;-p !!)

Any results? Nil

What’s next? Our first appointment with the clinic to start the IVF cycle is scheduled for Friday morning, we have been told to anticipate spending about 3 hours there to get a baseline ultrasound, blood tests, fill out paper work, pay them lots of money – I hope they take my credit card (thinking of all the extra points!!!).

Weight. Overall, the Birth Control Pills did not cause me to put on weight.  After tracking for 18 days straight (first time I have ever done this) I can see that I have a bit of up and down cycles as I eat more at the weekends and less during the week.  But looking at my rolling average, I have not put on weight.  Yippeee!  But I have a good baseline set of measurements now prior to stimulation to closely monitor the effects.

Waist.  NSTR

Boobs. NSTR

Hours of Sunshine 🙂 I got in several hours of sunshine this weekend, just before we had a huuuuge storm that crapped the hell out of me…the lightening, thunder and winds were extreme, I wasn’t sure we were about to face a tornado.  Our neighbour’s tree fell down on their house and the neighbourhood flooded, fortunately this is the reason we all have raised houses.

My stats to date

My stats to date

*Notes.  I take First Response Reproductive Health multi vitamin gummies (pre-natal) and CoQ10 200mg gummies daily.  NSTR = Nothing Significant To Report.

It can be all a little bit confusing

Infertility treatment IS pretty darn confusing.  And I’ve spent 100s of hours researching it.  It’s confusing because there is no one single way to treat infertility.  If they had figured out a magic pill to get you pregnant we would all be taking it.  Unfortunately, there isn’t that one pill.  There are many causes of infertility and so treatment is specific to the couple being treated.  The journey each one of us take to the great pudding club will be unique.  And it can be confusing with all that medical jargon, drugs (brands and generic versions), procedures, timings…and to make things worse, it will probably be different each time we have another try to make a little one.

We have been asked many questions by friends and family about our infertility, and I am so glad they do ask – firstly, it shows that they care, and secondly, it helps spread awareness of infertility (did you know that 1 in 10 couples are infertile?).  So to this end, I have put together a page on my site that introduces some of the important terms we talk about a lot, all in one place.

(My new page: What does it all mean?)

I have also updated the ‘about me’ page to include a timeline of what we have tried so far.  We will be using these pages as a place to direct family and friends for a bit of background as we start our first IVF cycle and tell a few more people what we are going through.

My dear friends, I just wanted you to know how grateful I am that you are here with us and support us along the way.  Thank you for understanding and thank you for providing us with words of strength and comfort X

IVF DIARY VOL I: 10 – 16 JULY 2015

IVF_Diary_Vol1a.pngMedication(s) administered and dosage(s). Ovulation Control Pill (OCP) Reclipsen 0.15MG-30MCG x 1

Medical procedures undertaken. Nil

How do I feel today?  Fed up of spotting!  I haven’t felt ‘hormonal’ the last week like I thought potentially the birth control pills might do.  Overall feeling not too bad.

What are my symptoms? The first few days after I started the birth control pills I got a bit bloated and a bit constipated…which for someone with Irritable Bowel Syndrome (The diarrhea type) one would think it would make a nice change from going to poo three times a day!  Fortunately, things have got back to normal in that arena.  My boobs are a little tender and have stayed the same size since my period started (a bit bigger).  Then there is the extra bleeding also, my period lasted a couple of days longer than my normal 2-3 days…and I have been spotting since then, so wearing a panty liner is a must right now.

How does Chris feel today? Chris is still very busy at work at the moment 😦 He is trying to get as much done in prep for the when we start ‘stimming’ (aka injecting the drugs) so he can focus on us.  (Aww bless him, he’s a sweetie)  We did have that big discussion about how many embryos to transfer and what our decision will be.  It made for an interesting dinner table conversation!  We weighed up the pros and cons, but he did say that ultimately he would stick with whatever I decided because it is my body and health that would be at risk.  So we haven’t completely ruled out transferring two just yet.

Any results? NA

What’s next? Just four more days of birth control pills.  I’m looking forward to not hearing my ‘alien’ alarm on my phone that reminds me to take them at the same time every day.

Weight. Funny story and probably too much information – Now, I have been weighing myself as soon as I wake up to make it a fair comparison.  One morning, after weighing myself I went downstairs, started to prepare breakfast when I realised I needed to go to the toilet (at last hooray!!).  And as I mentioned earlier, having been constipated for a while, I did an enormous poo….so much so that in the interest of science, afterwards, I dashed back upstairs to weigh myself again.  Can you believe it?  I weighed EXACTLY the same 127.2lbs….and I got on and off I three times to be sure it wasn’t stuck.  So now I just don’t trust those scales!!

Waist.  NSTR

Boobs. NSTR

Hours of Sunshine 🙂 Seriously, still not enough….the weather has not been great recently, but last night whilst I played softball I soaked up the evening sun and it was glorious.  I hope this weekend brings us some better weather!

150716_IVF1_Stats

*Notes.  I take First Response Reproductive Health multi vitamin gummies (pre-natal) and CoQ10 200mg gummies daily.  NSTR = Nothing Significant To Report.

We have a start date for IVF!

Today the nurse called me with our IVF schedule…wooohooo!

It looks roughly like this:

Our rough schedule

Our rough schedule

So our first day of stimulation injectibles will be Friday 24 July.  Chris and I both go in to the clinic to fill out the rest of the paper work, pay the $$$, get a lesson on how to do injectibles, receive our medication plan and I will have my first monitoring appointment with ultrasound/ blood work.

I also asked the nurse about the vivelle dot (estrogen patches) and why insurance only covers 8 patches and not the whole 24.   Apparently the use of the patches is “off label” so it is not covered under infertility coverage, therefore I would need to pay for the rest out of pocket.  BUT she did say that usually insurance will cover 8 every 30 days, so I can refill the prescription in 2.5 weeks and the insurance will cover 8 more patches, then I maybe lucky that by the time I need the last 8 it might be another 30 days.  But either way, now we know why and will expect to pay out of pocket for the patches if needs be!

So….just another 11 days of Birth Control Pills! I really hope these don’t mess my hormones up too much :-s

IVF Diary Vol I: 04 – 09 July 2015

IVF_Diary_Vol1I’m starting my IVF Diary today.  I’m going to be tracking a few things about my first IVF experience over the next 6-7 weeks .  I’ll be blogging too, but I want to capture the experience like this….in a kind of organised manner, to help give me some sense of control over something, because I fear that I will have to let that go!

Medication(s) administered and dosage(s). Ovulation Control Pill (OCP) Reclipsen 0.15MG-30MCG x 1

Medical procedures undertaken. Nil

How do I feel today?  I was feeling grumpy, then a bit teary eyed today.  No one asked me if anything was wrong, but I reckon some people probably thought I got out of the wrong side of bed today!  Which perhaps I did because it’s the first night I slept all the way through without needing to pee or wake up from night sweats….and then the alarm woke me up and I really didn’t want to get up.

What are my symptoms? It’s period time, so I am bleeding pretty heavily today with some gross and huge clots (sorry if that’s too much info, but this is what this diary will be – blunt and honest! It’s not going to be all fairies and sunshine).  I also have normal period pains and feeling of emptiness in my tummy like I want to do a huge fart or burp (It’s the kind of feeling I get when I am really hungry)

How does Chris feel today? Chris is very busy at work at the moment, but when I asked him he how he was feeling, he said he hasn’t thought about IVF today! 🙂

Any results? NA (but the nurse finally told me today that my blood test results for HiV, Hep B, C and Rubella all came back just fine even though I called her last week to check up on them and the results came back 2 weeks ago!)

What’s next? Hoping that my body can handle these Birth Control Pills!

150709_IVF_Stats

09 July 2015

Weight. NSTR

Waist.  NSTR

Boobs. NSTR

Hours of Sunshine 🙂 Not enough….0.25hrs (I walked to the shop)

*Notes.  I take First Response Reproductive Health multi vitamin gummies (pre-natal) and CoQ10 200mg gummies daily.  NSTR = Nothing Significant To Report.

Double Trouble: options for elective single embryo transfer

Double trouble can only mean one thing – twins!  A couple of weeks ago our friend recently gave birth to two handsome little boys – fraternal twins.  I visited them after they were just a few days old, and as I held one of the boys I tried to imagine how it was possible to fit two of these little babies in anyone’s tummy!  I know they are curled up pretty tight in there, but seriously – it must be magic!  I am so amazed at how my friend carried these two boys to full term and not break her back!  I am also super impressed that she avoided a c-section, despite one of her boys being breach – what a super mum (mom).  And I am under no false impressions that it was easy!  So all this got me thinking about our first IVF cycle and the number of Embryos we will transfer…and our chances of twins.

Now…Chris and I have already discussed and agreed that we are OK with multiples…we had to make that decision when we had our IUIs, in fact for one of my IUIs I had three follicles, so there was always a chance for triplets! Yikes Treble Trouble.  But being OK with multiples is not the same as actively desiring multiples.  For IUI, it was kind of out of our hands how any eggs would fertilise and implant, it was still very natural.  But for IVF, we kind of have a choice.  Our clinic typically transfers 2 embryos for women <35 and first round of IVF, but of course, we can choose to just transfer 1.

I read somewhere that 29% of IVF patients said that twins were a desirable outcome.  Why?  Well it’s kind of like BOGOF (buy one get one free).  IVF treatment doesn’t come cheap, both financially and emotionally, so I can understand this logic.  But for me this is all about probability and gambling….not with money, but with needles and drugs.  Sure it costs $$$$s but fortunately we have it covered by insurance. It’s the emotional and physical cost that I am particularly nervous about.  I have no clue what it will be like, so I feel like for our first IVF round we can’t make a firm decision just yet how many embryos we will transfer. I want to wait and see what all these hormones are like first and what our doctor’s prognosis will be when the time comes.twins

However, that doesn’t stop me looking into it now.  Whilst I was surfing the web for more info on this subject I discovered an article that my RE had commented on regarding the a study that had shown single embryo beat double embryo transfer.  Her point of view on the study was very vanilla and cautious! Random. I also found that the CDC provide a good little list of things to consider for elective Single Embryo Transfer.

So for now this topic lays to rest until we get a bit closer to transfer day.  But until then, I’ll keep educating myself on what it might be like to be a mother of twins as well as help out our friend however we can with their teeny bundles of joy 🙂  So it’s not just double trouble – it’s also double the adorable 🙂

So, do you want children too?

So, do you want children too?

Multiple choice answers, you only get one chance to get the right answer:

A) Reply smoothly, “Yes, some day soon – kids are cool”.

B) Reply, indignantly “No, never ” (By the way, did you know that you just spent 10 minutes complaining about kids taking up all your free time – you have put me off them for life).

C) Reply, matter-of-factly “Yes, actually we going to be making one in a petri dish next month, maybe even two.  Hopefully that will do the trick.”

D) Pretend to see someone calling you from the other side of the room and run away, trying not to cry until you make it to the toilets.


This weekend I went to a beautiful wedding back in the UK, my friend from school was tying the knot!!  I lamented in my last post about drinking alcohol at the party and dreading answering the question why I wasn’t drinking.  In the end, I decided to have a couple of drinks, but only a glass of champagne and glass of wine – I also tried a bit of gin and tonic (ohhhhhh how I miss you gin and the bitter-sweet taste of tonic water with a slice of tongue tingling lime).  I will say, that having not being used to these beverages I was a little tipsy – in a good way – it went straight to my head!  But a merry affair was had 🙂  It was just the most lovely wedding and I am so happy for my friend that she has found love with a rather lovely gentleman who will treat her well.

The wedding was at a beautiful venue in a harbour on the South coast (a tad windy!)

The wedding was at a beautiful venue in a harbour on the South coast (a tad windy!)

Right, back to the subject of this post.  Without thinking much about having to answer the question “Why are you not drinking”…I forgot about the classic question that came a bit out left of field “So…how about you, do you want children?”.  And to make matters worse, the question came from a ‘high school ex boyfriend’ who I haven’t since in as many years.  He had just spent several minutes talking about his kids (who, by the way, were two adorable little cuties who are super bright) and he then just came out with the question.

So which multiple choice answer do you think I gave???  Well, for some reason I decided to go with C: “Yes, actually we going to be making one in a petri dish next month, maybe even two.  Hopefully that will do the trick.”  I don’t know why it was my instinct to say it, but then the conversation just got awkward after that.  Damn it.  I hate awkwardness.  I won’t be using that answer EVER again 🙂  I’ll stick with A: “Yes, some day soon – kids are cool”.

The ethics of ICSI – Intra Cytoplasmic Sperm Injection

ICSI for unexplained infertility

I felt pretty well versed and comfortable in the ethical debate behind IVF, well, so I thought until we came across ICSI.  Intra-Cytoplasmic Sperm Injection (ICSI) was recommended by our doctor because we have been diagnosed with unexplained infertility.  She explained that this procedure is worth trying because in our case of unexplained infertility there could be a chance that there may be something in the fluid surrounding my eggs preventing fertilisation.  ICSI overcomes this potential problem by injecting a sperm directly into the egg, avoiding the fluid.  It is important to note that with unexplained infertility there could be many other reasons unknown to us why we have not been able to get pregnant yet; we just can’t pinpoint the exact cause at this moment.  By performing ICSI (for a few thousand dollars more) it slightly increases our chances of success.  I have been looking into the evidence behind unexplained infertility and ICSI and the jury is out on whether it is worth while or not.  Despite the mixed reports on the internet, I trust our doctor, and as our fertility clinic is attached to a medical school I like to think that they are up to date on these things.

I hadn’t thought much about ICSI previously because Chris’s sperm is pretty good, I didn’t think it was on the table.  So I hadn’t read much about the procedure.  As I began to read up on the procedure, I started to think more about the ethics and morality of it.  Selecting the ‘best looking sperm’…is it any different to selecting the ‘best looking egg or embryo’ as would be the case for normal IVF?  And so I decided to look into it a bit more to understand what ICSI really is, and the considerations for and against this artificial reproductive technology procedure.

This post is just me putting ideas out there and exploring the issues, I do not necessarily agree with everything written here.  I may have been unintentionally selective or biased in some of my arguments, there are probably many more arguments for and against ICSI, so please feel free to comment and add at the bottom of my post.

What is ICSI?

ICSI – Intra Cytoplasmic Sperm Injection is an in-vitro fertilisation procedure that has been in use since 1992.  Fertilisation is achived by the direct injection of a single sperm into the cytoplasm of the egg.  The sperm can be extracted from fresh or frozen ejaculate, as well as being extracted directly from the testes (yikes, sorry guys, doesn’t sound fun at all).  The egg is prepared to facilitate penetration of the sperm.  The preparation of the egg includes enzymatic treatment and micro dissection of the cells which surround the egg.  Injecting the sperm bypasses the normal interaction it would have with the egg upon first encounter.  The deliberate selection of sperm for the procedure involves an assessment of selection criteria including: size, form and mobility of the sperm.  Despite the selection criteria, there is no guarantee that the sperm is actually ‘normal’ and therefore, there is no guarantee that fertilisation will occur.  It is even possible to select X or Y sperm to select gender, but only few fertility clinics offer gender selection for when it is necessary to avoid a known genetic disorder being passed.  I have also read about some fertility clinics offering gender selection if the family has one child already, and they want to ‘complete the family’ by selecting the opposite gender of its sibling.  This totally blows my mind.  After the sperm is injected into the egg, the egg is placed in an incubator and checked the next day for fertilisation.  If fertilisation is successful, the embryo is left for 2 or 3 days and then a decision is made whether to transfer the embryos back into the woman’s uterus for the next stage implantation.

Statistically speaking, there is evidence that ICSI slightly increases the pregnancy rate (but not statistically significant) compared to normal IVF.  The spontaneous abortion rate with ICSI is slightly lower, but this maybe as a result of the younger age of the mothers and the absence of female-related infertility.  The frequency of multiples is about the same (probably because the policies for number of embryos transferred remains the same).  The statistics for randomised trials of normal IVF v ICSI show that there is no significant difference.  Some researchers suggest that ICSI should only be reserved for the use of severe male factor infertility.  However, the use of ICSI is on the rise and becoming the new normal as infertility clinics like to reduce the risk of failure for the patient.  I can understand why that little extra % chance all adds up.

Ethical and moral considerations of ICSI – the arguments pro and against.

All ethical debates relating to IVF still apply to ICSI.  But ICSI may be considered effectively as a further layer of ethical debate  because we are potentially further ‘messing with nature’ by selecting one single sperm.  Often Pre-Implantation Genetic Diagnosis (PGD) will be part of ICSI, where there is a screening of cells of pre-implantation embryos for the detection of chromosonal disorders before an embryo transfer.  We are not doing PGD.  This can also add a further level for debate.

I will start with what I have found regarding the pros of ICSI, and other Artificial Reproductive technologies, followed by the against arguments…

Pro ICSI: The right to procreate.  To want a child is probably the most legitimate need in the world.  The right to found a family is one of the most important human rights as declared in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (948, Article 16.1)  ICSI enables and supports this right.

Pro ICSI : Genetically related offsping. Before ICSI was possible, couples with male infertility would likely have resorted to donor sperm, or due to religious or personal beliefs would have rejected the use of a donor and remain childless.  With ICSI, it is possible for couples to have a child that is genetically related to them that previously was not possible.

Pro ICSI: Reducing the risks to the couple. If natural IVF was chosen over ICSI the woman may be unnecessarily putting herself at increased risk, physically and mentally for both partners.  For instance, if natural IVF were to fail first time round, ICSI may have prevented failure.  There are no guarantees, but as a couple puts themselves through multiple rounds of IVF, the physical and mental stresses increase, including the financial burden.

Against ICSI: The risks to the child itself.  There is much debate about the use of ICSI in male infertility and associated genetic abnormalities.  Chris does not have male infertility, so the risk of genetic abnormality is supposedly lower.  But the case for natural selection is negated with ICSI, there is no competition as would be with natural fertilisation, the chosen sperm may be a factor in genetic malformation.  There is also a risk of choosing a sperm that is immature and may interfere with the process of genetic imprinting and could result in growth retardation and functional disorders.  However, there has been little evidence to support these concerns.  Having said there is little evidence, ICSI has been around only since 1992, so children born from ICSI have not reached far into their adulthood and so studies are limited on the long term health related issues of ICSI born children.  Not to say the least, that the long term generation effects of ICSI on the population overall are not well understood and are only theorised.  For example, will infertility be passed? In itself, will ICSI simply contribute to further medicalising in the future?

Against ICSI: Multiple Embryos.  With IVF, to give a couple the best chance for a pregnancy multiple embryos are produced, grown, and then implanted into the uterus.  Some embryos may be discarded if they aren’t of good enough quality to present a healthy chance of pregnancy.  ICSI increases the likelihood for the generation of surplus embryos.  For some people, each embryo represents a life and so the disposal of embyros is considered in the same light as abortion.

I found one eloquent and well articulated argument that explains why some people are against multiple embryos “Where doubt exists on the level of fact, the integrity of conscience requires that the presumption be in favour of the life.  There is a classic example, if a hunter hears a rustling noise in the bushes, and is unsure whether it is a deer or another human being, he must assume it is a human being until such time as he can establish that it is not.  Similarly we may accept the argument that there is scientific uncertainty as to the precise moment when an individual human life begins.  That uncertainty, however, does not remove the obligation of care and respect for what certainly has the potential to become, and may already be, a distinct human individual.”

Against ICSI: Human Error. I have read about people worried about sperm/eggs getting mixed up in the laboratories.  We learned that sperm is dyed a certain colour for each patient so there is no confusion – this was why Chris’s sperm was purple!!  But to err is human after all and so are we potentially increasing the risk for a morally complex problem?

Chris's purple sperm

Chris’s purple sperm

Partial ICSI – overcoming some of the issues at hand?  Partial ICSI is where some of the eggs are left to fertilise ‘naturally’ in the petri dish as with normal IVF, and the rest of the eggs are injected with individually selected sperm as ‘back up insurance’, just in case normal fertilisation does not occur naturally.

There are many different valid and understandable viewpoints about assisted reproductive technologies like IVF and ICSI.  I am the type of person who respects others’ viewpoints and tries to understand as much as possible all sides of an argument.  I am an analyst by profession so I like to think I am good at that.  We have decided to do IVF and ICSI knowing these issues.  I just hope that others can equally respect our decision for IVF and ICSI.  But I now feel suitably versed to think about some of the important ethical and moral issues surrounding these artificial reproductive technologies.


Other notes and interesting references

On a side note, I found an interesting statement as I was researching that I wanted to share with you, it is about IVF and women’s rights in general.  Mary Anne Warren, (a philosophy professor who wrote a lot about abortion and criteria for personhood) wrote:

“If women’s right to reproductive autonomy means anything, it must mean that we are entitled to take some risks with our physical and psychological health, in the attempt to either have or not have children.  Neither abortion nor many forms of contraception are entirely safe, but women sometimes reasonably judge that the alternatives are even less desirable.  Having a wanted child can be as important a goal as avoiding an unwanted birth.”

Other references which discuss some of the more interesting medical facts than I am not willing to describe in my blog as I am not a medical professional or just interesting…

Potential Health Risks Associated to ICSI: Insights from Animal Models and Strategies for a safe procedure, Front Public Health. 2014. 2: 241.  Accessible here: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4235077/

Ethics of Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection: proceed with care, Wert, G.M., Human reproduction, 1998 vol 13 (1)  Accessible here: http://humrep.oxfordjournals.org/content/13/suppl_1/219.full.pdf

Dealing with uncertainties: ethics of prenatal diagnosis and preimplantation genetic diagnosis to prevent mitochondrial disorders, Human reproduction update,  2008, vol 14 (1), Accessible here: http://humupd.oxfordjournals.org/content/14/1/83.short

Ethical issues in Assisted Reproductive Technologies, a presentation by Effy Vayena: http://www.gfmer.ch/PGC_RH_2005/pdf/Ethics_IVF.pdf

Ethical issues arising from the use of Assisted Reproductive Technologies, Dickens, B.M., Accessible here: http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.195.8966&rep=rep1&type=pdf

Suggestions for keeping your sanity on the Emotional Roller Coaster of Infertility Treatment

In our pack of homework there was a little article from our fertility clinic’s resident psychologist.  I am sure she wouldn’t mind me copying it to my blog to share with everyone else if it helps anyone else.  Thank you Dr Barbara Kersey for your wise words….

1.  Lower your expectations of yourself at this time.  Infertility treatment is stressful.  Learn to say “no” to other commitments that are not absolutely necessary.  Chris and I both agreed we need to do this more.

2. Don’t listen to “horror stories” from other patients or friends.  Keep your own counsel in the waiting room.  Exchange only helpful, positive suggestions with others.  I haven’t heard too many horror stories on the blogs.  I don’t go to forums too much because this is where I have come across horror stories.  I’ll be honest, I tend to find bloggers a bit more educated in their opinions compared to those who may be posting on forums.  That doesn’t mean all people on forums are not educated, I just find that sometimes forums can be a little laisez faire behind posts.  So far we have not spoken to anyone in the waiting room, and we probably won’t; it’s quite a daunting place, but you never know if someone there has just had a miscarriage or just found out they are pregnant.  I’m not inclined to start any conversations here.

3.  Make it your business to be as calm as possible when you are here for treatment.  This won’t guarantee that you will get pregnant, but it can only help.  Whenever I have an appointment I have had my blood pressure taken – there is definitely a correlation behind the type of appointment and my increased blood pressure!  But I have noticed that it was lower for my third IUI.  Hopefully that is because I am relaxing a bit more.

4.  To  help develop your sense of calm, try yoga, meditation, full body massage, journaling, walking etc.  ANYTHING that helps keep your balance.  I love yoga, blogging, walking – I think one can always add in a massage or two here or there!

5.  Recogonise that the staff is here to help you.  Anxiety and anger are natural feelings, but won’t help you (or anyone else) to let staff bet the recipient of these feelings.  We spoke with a nurse once about this issue.  I said that they must have a very difficult job when dealing with such sensitive patients.  The nurse said she finds it hard and there are very difficult days, but equally a number of rewarding days.  She never knows how a patient will react so tends to keep very reserved.  My hats go off to the doctors and nurses working in this industry for the challenges they face everyday.

6.  Get outside support.  Try Resolve, the national support group for couples who deal with infertility.  For information go to www.resolve.org.  Once softball league is finished next week, we might go to one of our local meetings.  We both agree it might be a good idea to meet some others and get some support.

7.  Recognise that infertility is a COUPLES’ issue.  Keep the lines of communication open with your partner.  Infertility is a huge stress on marriage.  Get outside help if needed.  Well Chris wrote a blog post about this the other day…so I won’t say much more other than he is a great rock to me, I hope I am to him too.  I hope we can keep doing this all the way until we have a little F. (Obviously keeping the whole marriage thing up afterwards too 😉 )

Happy Friday Y’all!!! (Check me out with my American speak!!!)

Where to go for more information about IVF?

When we decided to go ahead with IVF at our last appointment, the doctor gave us a rundown about the whole process, but I did not learn anything new that I had read about already.  Of course, I had done some research on top google hits about the process in general. I have also been following a few blogs about ladies going through IVF themselves.  But I will be honest…I have not really stepped up to my usual level of research.  Probably because I thought I had plenty of time before we start this.  Also I’ve been keeping myself busy the last couple of weeks, both at work and at play.  Next week we have our first appointment with our nurse, so I want to make sure I ask all the right question from the outset.  And so, the time has come!  I feel like I have a big gaping hole in my knowledge and I need to fill it…stat!!

When I first started following blogs I was put off following IVF blogs that were overly acronym-ised and had lots of numbers on it.  Without any reference, it felt like gobbley-de-gook to me.  In fact it was (and still is) terrifying.  I am sure it will all make sense soon, but for now I am following a select few who make it easy to read for newbies (thank you for that by the way!).  But where do I start my research?

Areas I would like to better understand:

  • Medication for IVF
  • Embryology
  • Ethics
  • ICSI
  • Complimentary Therapies
  • The statistics low down! Because I just can’t help myself being an analyst by trade, I’ve got to know!

Do you have any good suggestions for books or websites that you have found helpful with your IVF journey?